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Month: May 2016

Expectant Father Feelings Before the Birth

Expectant Father Feelings Before the Birth

Are you an expectant father? How are you feeling? How SHOULD you be feeling? As I approach the birth of my first child (she’ll be here by the time you read this), I keep wondering if the way I feel is okay. My feelings about the birth and pregnancy have changed like a kaleidoscope during the last nine months. I’ve gone from joy and elation, to fear and terror, to amazement, back to fear with a side of joy and everything…

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Am I a Narcissist?

Am I a Narcissist?

Sometimes I wonder if I’m a narcissist. Maybe I am, maybe I’m not. What determines if you are a narcissist? An obsession with yourself? Being self-centered? Not caring what happens to others? Something more? As I’ve started writing for this blog, it has brought many of my feelings and concerns to light. I feel like I’ve become a lot more self-centered over the last few years. I think it’s partly a natural human progression. We spend the majority of our…

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Our Early Labor Scare

Our Early Labor Scare

When my wife was 32 weeks pregnant, she went into early labor. That’s 8 weeks early.   It was a Friday night, after another long week. I had been working a lot of overtime for work, as well as trying to stay afloat with grad school and my business. I hadn’t really seen my wife much during the week. We went out of an uneventful dinner, then came home and watched some TV. Ironically, we watched the first in a…

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Motherhood and Critical Wife

Motherhood and Critical Wife

They say motherhood changes a woman. My wife isn’t technically a mother yet (although she might be by the time this article is published!), but I’ve already noticed some disturbing changes. I’ve noticed that my wife has become much more critical of me and the things I do. She is more demanding. She has started to boss me around quite a bit. It is making me very uneasy and worried about the future. Is this just a phase? Will she grow…

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ABC Baby Sleep Method

ABC Baby Sleep Method

So you’ve got a new baby and they sent you home from the hospital. Clearly, the hospital forgot to give you a manual. So you rush back and talk to the nurses and the doctors. You ask for the manual they forgot to give you. You get laughed at – you must be one of those bumbling idiot dads. Now what? Well, step one, is learning how to put baby to sleep safely. Surely, you’ve heard about SIDS? Sudden Infant Death…

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My Wife Told Me She Was Pregnant

My Wife Told Me She Was Pregnant

When my wife told me she was pregnant, I nearly passed out! My wife told me that she was pregnant in August of 2015. I had a very busy week between work and graduate school. The previous few months had not been easy for me. I was stressed out beyond belief. I was in the midst of an existential crisis. I had recently changed jobs. I thought it was going to be my dream job, but it seemed to be…

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Why are we having a kid?

Why are we having a kid?

As we get closer and closer to D-day (delivery day), I have started to wonder…..why in the world am I having a child? Why are we doing this? What possessed my otherwise sane wife and I to reproduce? I’ve always liked the idea of having children. The ramifications of having a child never really sank in until she was almost here. I’m scared to bring another human being into this world. There are so many issues and problems that I can’t control….

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Email for the Baby

Email for the Baby

I created a gmail account for my unborn baby. Why does an unborn baby need an email address? Well, it’s great for freaking out grandma! There are a few legitimate reasons I can think to reserve an email address for you baby. Reserve your child’s name before someone else does. I tried to get just my daughter’s name and last initials, but it was already taken. If you want to have a good address for you kids that doesn’t end…

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Any Day Now – Baby Is Coming

Any Day Now – Baby Is Coming

Babies are scary for a new dad. I don’t have any real experience dealing with newborns. A 3 month old is one thing, but a newborn is an entirely different beast. How do to sooth someone that is barely even conscious of themselves? How do you feed, clean, and care for another human being that is entirely dependent on you? That is a terrifying thought. You know it is, even if you can’t admit it to yourself. We went to…

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Mitchell Method, Not Just for Mom!

Mitchell Method, Not Just for Mom!

We took a series of classes about birthing our child. They were taught by a quirky old lady that used to be neonatal nurse. She was adamant about the “mind-body” connection, or how we can influence our bodies by using self-talk and mantras. I’ve always believed in this to some extent, but she takes it to the extreme. Not in a bad way, she just over iterated it to the point where I didn’t want to hear it anymore. That’s where…

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